I look around and see so much wonderment and excitement; I also feel exhilarated and giddy with the possibility of anything. There are also feelings of stress of changes that come with this. We hear the sound of those tiny feet and our heart fills with joy. When they become toddlers we are amazed at the spirit of adventure they have and their sheer energy. But we also suffer sleep deprivation; agitation; a less than self care routine; some of us might get to shower once a week when no help is available in the early days of parenting. We all have different backgrounds, struggles, trials tribulations, as well as successes failures feats and happiness.
We are all full packages and bundles of more than definitions lifestyles and labels. To say I am spiritual or to say we are non believers or we attest to the law of attraction philosophy or we follow the Hare Krishna movement as an example or any other philosophy and to reject all other ways of living as not authentic or as less than, is to say, we are all fragmented divided and not worthy of self love let alone any form of acceptance from our self to self and to each other.
When we focus on one aspect of our package and make it the totality of us, we run the real risk of living a very fragmented and blinkers on life. We run the risk of isolation and forming little huts that are the only huts worth hutting in!
Similarly, when we become engorged in the feel good ego massaging boosters, inspirational thoughts and ideas, bigger than life spiritualised living, we run again a risk of bypassing our whole self.
When we move into the spiritual life, unless this comes with a full introspection and investigation into the totality of self inward and outward, and in relation to the other, then it is nothing but a form of escapism and bypassing the real issues. Why do we need to sign up to anything for life so much so that we forget why we signed up and forget that we are free to sign out and grow. We are in effect limiting our own potential and creating a spiralling down the rabbit hole without an end in sight.
We forget how to simply live in the moment. We become slaves to whatever paradigms and new habits we have that we say we are. We might outgrow some or some may begin to grate at us or create something stale in the room but we still steadfastly adhere to these. Why? Fear. We have become so accustomed to a particular way as the way to achieve anything that to sign out would feel like sabotage to you. Yet you might be inclined to feel that it is simply your resistance or an old pattern. It might just be that you are meant to experience it all and not just one part of it because we are so much more than we think or see.
Why we have a tendency to bypass is baffling yet so rampant. We live in socially avoidant times when we will do anything and everything to look away from the why me in the life of me or look too deep that the presence in life is taken for granted and you wake up to life absent.
I call this an insta bypass. Because it could be a signing up to anything that motivates you because you need to be lifted up so you think as opposed to be brought right down in the backyard of reality. The motivational speeches might just keep you right there comfortable on your little high horse and just the tonic you need to keep up the facade.
If what you really want is love you might say who needs love and then sign onto whatever groups you can find to support that notion. What is really happening here? You are getting the evidence to support a notion that is just your own kinda way of coping with your reality of not wanting to feel lonely and wanting a love interest.
You might be a single mama who will sign up to how empowering it is to be a single mama or how incredible it feels to have your bubba all to yourself. Again this does nothing but keep your mind fed and satisfied. No paradigm shift simply a bypass of the real issues. Its hard to be a single mama or a single papa whichever way you got there and without support wow so help us lord! It’s super tough. Instead of dealing with the shitty part of it we want to bypass that and talk about how much happier single parents are. Bullshit.
We will stay with our aged mama and even sacrifice our own lives thinking we are doing this out of love. And we will buy into anything including friends social circles to validate this thought process. Again, you are bypassing the real issue. Could it be you so desperately need your mamas approval because that was what was modelled to you as a child? That good daughters never leave their mamas? Yes we love them but at what cost because surely self sacrifice is self sabotage and a self defeating ingrained mechanism to control us lest we flee the herd? Self is the most important aspect of us, yet very avoided so that one never gains any self mastery and only self slavery to whatever the existing paradigms of consciousness are prevalent whether that be patriarchy or whatever else.
In present times we live with daily food for thought, the different “laws” of manifestations, a cascading array of motivational speakers, spiritualists and so called Gurus with the promise of the life of your dreams. You are even brainwashed to think what a better life is or what spirituality means. There is little yet a growing presence now of those that are bringing the shadows and wounds out in the open. Still, we look for that easy fix because, errmmm who wants to get down and dirty right?
Spiritual bypassing has been going on for centuries. It’s no new thing. Although now it is more known since the revolution to open up spirit is here. As many as there are, so many remain delusional and hardly in the right frame of their whole senses so much so that to get angry or to raise their voice or to speak out of turn or to even have an opinion is unthinkable let alone doable!!! At this end of the continuum we have the forever do goodies always in form always positive punters. Then we have those that are half way and will still have one eye shut. And some with eyes wide open but mouths shut for fear of living in their truth as they don’t know how to live fully awakened lives authentically.
Bypassing is what we have always done to cope with the travesty of being human. Simple. We cannot face parts of ourself which is why parts of us fled the scene and fragmented we became and more dismembered our memories of us became. We still carry wounds; we still have dark and shadow selves. By behaving as though you have arrived when in fact you haven’t won’t change anything. You will need to face up to your crap now or later. It’s an inevitable part of us and an automatic self healing we all go though – a return to wholeness.
Please don’t sacrifice the self for the sake of an existing consciousness that doesn’t work ; instead uplift your self and get to know the self fall in love with the self and that is when you can then branch out and extend your whole self out to the world and to others. Till then, just a part of you will do more harm to self than anything else. You will keep finding names and more nations to keep your ideology of life fixed even if that doesn’t work for you.
Start working for your self now – what’s the delay?