Ah what a sight it was this morning as we walked through the farm along the footpath to watch little bubba stop every passerby and wish them “goodmoro”! They smiles back and obliged our little bubba and you bet that if any one of them was having any nasty thought that’s all gone for sure. Can you beat the cheer of a little bubba? No way. Well, ermm unless the “Scrooge” in you is working over time or maybe you are a stressed out Mama thinking “ooof get on with it we need to get back home,”, or “erghhh ermmmm sorry my little bubba is just super social and loves people dogs nature and all he sees..”.
What do we do as parents when our little ones act out of pure love? Do we impress upon them to continue or do we say, “noooo you can’t talk to everyone, people like to be left alone on their morning walks!”. Or we might step back and watch our little bubba expand his original vision – LOVE. Yep, I say original because somewhere we lost that as adults. No, not because life happens. Our initial caregivers will set the tone of what love is and how love is. Well, we can’t really define love though can we. It’s just there. It’s the creative force of nature that drives us to be us.
Love makes the world go round.
Operating from a whole sense of self you will also attract what is whole. And if what comes is not whole it surely will head in that direction as you lift their wholeness out of them for them. That’s what love does for the sake of love. To reach that wholeness also means doing a lot of crying and letting go of so much self imposed limitation that came from a false sense of self. I say false because truly in our original version of self there is no falsity and no limitation at all. We are whole. Did little bubba think about why one passerby didn’t engage with him? No instead when the same passerby came again, little bubba carried on trying to engage without reservation or any fears of judgement rejection or abandonment.
Mama walked far away from little bubba who was very happily enjoying his little findings along the path. He found a dry leaf and astounded by its beauty. A Great Dane passed by and little bubba unperturbed by its size just went to it to give him a big big hug. There was so much love everywhere everyone else just had to stop by and watch this little bubba spread his wings and sprinkle fairy dust of little droplets of love glitter.
If Mama had stopped little bubba and herself stood apart from everyone else not wanting to engage or greet them, bubba would have picked that as his way or model of how to behave with others. Little bubba’s love is far too infectious for Mama to feel otherwise and so we go with the flow he has set and that is LOVE unbarred.
What happened to love?
Love is first modelled by the Mama and after by Papa and other caregivers. What is the relationship between mama and bubba? Is it riddled with:
“I am the parent and you are my child and therefore do as I say”
or
“I don’t approve of that And I can say that because I am your Mama”
or
“You don’t know anything yet you are too small”
Oh there’s so much here it would take up my whole “me” time while little bubba naps.
When we fill to the brim our children’s cauldrons of needs with a lot of love, the way they express their love will never come from a need to be loved. It will never be a question of wanting love either for them but a state of being love. For them then it will be a state of sharing the being of love.
Every single need met is one notch of any possibility of wanting or needing in later adult life down. Zero insecurity.
We don’t need to seek that which we are but we do as long as we are not that. We are at our core pure love. Total ethereal here and now pure love.
You don’t need to sign up to any workshops anymore. Invest that time and money in the live workshop our children have set up for us. To raise our vibration to match theirs for theirs is whole frequency. Why don’t we try to match ours to theirs instead of force them out of their wholeness to match our own fragmented wounded sense of self?
How do we know we are not in that state of love?
Take a piece of paper or okay take your mobile phone and keep typing any letter say “x” in your notes each time you use these words:
Need
Want
Desire
If
Have to
Should
Could
When you are with your other half do a stock take to see what “needs” you are both satisfying in each other or not. Just talk anyway.
Loving is sharing. And if you are married as two halves or thirds or any decimals then as long as you are both self aware and on a journey together toward wholeness nothing can stop you from raising whole children with a totality of engaged awareness of self.
Is your love a needy one? Or?