-a recipe for total annihilation of self or -a quick fix for a craving for connection?
-a dangerously seductive form of voluntary absenting from life
-a networking tool
“Desensitisation of us”
I ran an experiment today of just scrolling down my social media and noticing how that would impact me afterward. I must have scrolled for about 3 minutes and I suddenly became conscious of a sense of “I am not here right now”, and a lot of spacey. Hmmm, I thought wow just imagine what is happening to all of those on it for longer periods of time. Do they develop a lower threshold of sensitivity? How does this affect our dreams and what the brain processes at the end of the day in our sleep cycle?
There is a fad now about having an online presence as an author together with a following! What is that all about? What happens to highly sensitive people or new parents or even single mamas with toddlers who only have tiny bits of time to write? Surely, there must be some “real” and not so “cyber” races of humans around right? Our mobile phones and all else have become an extension of us. How does one write from ones core with all the distractions? Can we really then be writing or have we been reduced to mere performers?
People wear their hurts with pride; at the beginning what seemed like bravery and embracing all parts of us, accepting our wounds and making us feel heard, now looks like a circus performance. It’s great to have platforms to be able to express oneself. But when these platforms become our crutch and then yardstick for personal success and esteem then we know we are in trouble.
Social media is a fantastic tool but one needs to practice conscious interactions as opposed to unconscious and unruly. We must be self aware and communicate that with authenticity. Otherwise before you know it, you have been taken over by a “people pleasing”, “need to perform” and need to be approved. Your mental health depends on your presence and investment in your life as you. Without an engaged presence you switch off to life and live a pseudo life on the net with imaginary friends.
There is a lot of information about any one single topic. What does that mean for you as a parent who is genuinely after some good conscious advice and guidance? It might be overwhelming confusing and very intimidating when you have so many shades of purple. Hence the importance of becoming self vested into your own consciousness bringing to you an active awareness that will yield guidance to you in your still space. That guidance might lead you to a particular platform or it might show you a way that you can yourself act upon to assist.
We cannot hear our inner guidance with all the noise that social media creates. If social media is a must for you then create a time slot and adhere to that. It can prevail over your present life otherwise that will wreck your brains and our children will follow suit and pretty much have their own social page before they their normal age appropriate developmental milestones. When your child poses for the camera and posts these on a social media platform on the face of it, it looks pretty normal but look deeper you see a child that is looking for validation, for adoration and an approval of his sense of self image.
A byproduct of being in a child like state, one that creates, and explores without inhibition, is that the mind becomes very absorbent. An infant learns what he is shown and not so much what he is told. Similarly when our brains are at a theta state they are more receptive and open. In that state we can access deep healing but we can also be exposed to “junk” if that’s what is fed in our states of vulnerable.
Have you spent more time on social media that you intended? Do you load yourself with a lot of the same information? Have you got any issues with concentration, sleep and holding your thoughts? Do you feel the need for space most of the time? Do you find real time communication in person with others a strain? Do telephone calls overwhelm you? Are you more at easy with video calls or text messaging? Do you check your social media on the sly?
Your body will show signals of an overloaded brain in many ways including stress, anxiety, interrupted sleep, an inability to concentrate, a heightened state of arousal, a need for space, a feeling of overwhelm, fatigue, depression and more.
What are your symptoms?